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This blog really just charts my life's experiences with the opposite gender. It also gives an insight to the workings of my mind. Simply put, it answers the question of how I got here. Some of you may be able to relate to some of my experiences, others may be able to gain insight and knowledge from it. Either way, welcome to my world!
Who am I?
You may call me J.
In case you are wondering (if you have not figured it out yet), my gender is male.
I am fun loving and easy going.
I am looking to make a difference everywhere I am.
Note
Please note that the tales detailed here are written based on my perspective at the time, and they do not indicate my views today. This much will be revealed when we catch up with me later in my posts.
Notice Board
I routinely go over what I have written for errors and corrections. I edit contents for clarity and often also make things less graphic. As such, while reading postings a second time you may notice some slight changes.
A quick word
Before passing judgment, make sure to read the very first entry; Here I am! Thank you for taking the time and for you understanding.
So you wanna know me?
- J.
- I am unique. I am a riot! There is only one of me. If you want to know more, get in touch.
1 comment:
This is more a personal note than a comment.
I have been reading your blog (which I have to say is entertaining - so kudos)for a while and I know to a certain extent it must be hard when people write harsh comments appropriate to what you did in the past now when you no longer advocate that line of thinking (i.e. sleeping around rather than abstinence).
I have been tempted to write a few myself as at some stage of my life I was what you quite harshly referred to a 'side dish'. The worse bit was I did not know I was one. At the time I wasn’t looking for a serious relationship but I hoped to get honesty. My then boyfriend hadn’t told me we were not exclusive (he later claims to have done and says I was gullible, maybe!!). Quite a couple of things happened that lead me to figure out our in exclusivity – the most relevant was discovering that after we had spent the night together at his place, he slept with my friend the next morning (also his friend; who arrived the morning I left – yes she saw me there- and who happened to be the sister of the un mentioned girlfriend). We were still together after that but I couldn’t trust him (not just what he said, but the person he was) and often joking said (though meaning it) that he might want to consider leaving as I could not. He eventually did, telling me he had to break up the relationship as he was suddenly engaged to a family friend. I knew it was a lie but didn’t plead or ask him to reconsider. I said ‘X (my friend he slept with) would be sad about that and got him talking about how he got engaged.
Quite a bit of a lengthy history, I know - but because of his dishonesty and lies (from someone who said I lied for not correcting his miscalculation of my age)three things happened:
1. For many years a relationship with a family friend who branded me (to my mother) a’ boyfriend thief’ was sullied for a while. (I never knew all the time she was right!!).
2. I had my first argument about a boy with my parents - because I thought he was worth it and they didn't.
3. Personally it took me until recently when I finally found out the truth to completely get over and get rid of the past hurts/ issues of a relationship that ended over 9 years ago.
I am not saying you should stop writing your blog (which you might have) but as you write consider the hurt you caused other people in getting where you are today. I just hope that, as happened in my case; in writing about them, you give certain people the closure they need to heal past issues and pains.
- 02 March 2007
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